Exes Only Deal with Past, Don't They?

I met my old friend from junior high – her name is Fancy – and for hours we shared about the old days we had together. She came with her boyfriend, Patrick, and when I asked whether he sometimes felt jealous about guys from Fancy’s past.

He replied (or sort of like this ‘cause I don’t remember the exact words) :
“She grew up without my permission, why should I be anxious of that?”

I felt a sudden lightning struck my head (hopefully it didn’t left any scar on my forehead :p)… Anyway, Patrick’s answer seems to be an answer for me. I never let go the fact that my boyfriend went on many relationships before ours. I am always jealous when his exes called to say hi or asked him out. In my head, it is programmed that they come to ruin every brick I lay to make this relationship successful, strong, and tough. I always feel that their presence is determined to take my man away. What a shallow point of view, right?

Patrick is right, I guess. I met when he was 19. He was dating since he was 14. In five years, he could meet any kind of girls, involved in any kind of situation, and experienced various kinds of feelings. He couldn’t be blamed of having that.

Then I look into my friend in college, Ayu. The complicated process between her and her present boyfriend (Mr.G) whose ex is Ayu’s best friend since high school (Ms. M), is really an eye-opening experience. I don’t know what Ayu did to cope with the feeling that she meets his boyfriend’s ex all the time. I don’t know what Ayu did to get rid the thought of what happened between Mr. G and Ms. M in their previous relationship – Those kisses, hugs, touches, romantic moments, or any physical intimate contact. I can easily lose my mind if I’m walking in her shoes. But three of them can get along as if there was nothing beyond the relationship. So, why can’t I?

I need a lot of work to make this works, of course. It’s not easy to change the mind set, definitely difficult to totally adjust the system. At least, my boyfriend always tells if there’s any contact with his exes. He always says that Ms. D called, Ms. F sent sms, bla bla bla,… At least, he wants me to know anything about him. He let me to come inside and share his world. Could it be too good to be true?